1. Start with the low-effort positions
You don't need flexibility or equipment to have a good time. These guides cover the positions that ask the least of your body and still work well.
- Missionary, step by step: five variations of the position most people learn first.
- 12 low-effort positions for when you're tired.
- Side-lying positions: spooning and scissors.
- Elevated spoon: low effort, high comfort.
- Couch and chair positions: using furniture you already own.
2. Get the lube basics right
Lube is the cheapest upgrade there is, and the wrong type can damage a toy or irritate skin. Our Lube 101 guide explains water-based, silicone and oil, and which works with toys and condoms.
3. Make positions easier with the right support
Angle and height change a lot. Our props guide covers pillows and wedges, and we reviewed the Liberator Wedge & Ramp after using it ourselves.
4. If you're ready to add a toy
- Sex toys for beginners: a buying guide.
- Best sex toys for couples.
- We-Vibe Melt review (tested by Clove).
- We-Vibe Chorus review (tested by Clove).
Every review is labelled Tested by the Clove founders or Researched by Clove, so you know which is which. See everything we own and tested.
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