Sex toys for beginners

Most people's first bad experience with a toy isn't about the toy being "wrong" for them — it's about material, noise, or complexity getting in the way before they even find out what they like. This guide skips the roundup format and focuses on the handful of things that actually separate a first toy you'll keep using from one that ends up in a drawer.

Materials to look for

This is the one area worth being genuinely picky about, because it affects both safety and how the toy feels.

• Medical-grade silicone: the standard for a reason — non-porous, body-safe, easy to clean, warms to body temperature quickly. If a listing doesn't specify the silicone grade, that's worth noting but not automatically disqualifying for external-only toys.
• Glass: non-porous, hypoallergenic, and compatible with any lubricant, though it requires more care in handling. Good for people with sensitivities to other materials.
• Stainless steel: similar benefits to glass — non-porous, easy to sterilize, and the weight is a feature for some people, not a downside.

Materials to avoid

• "Jelly" or unspecified rubber: often porous, which means it can harbor bacteria over time and generally can't be fully sterilized. Common in cheap novelty-store toys.
• Anything labeled only "TPE" or "TPR" without more detail: not automatically unsafe, but more porous than silicone and needs a condom for shared or long-term use. Fine for a low-cost first toy if you know that going in.
• Unlabeled materials generally: if a product page can't tell you what it's made of, that's the red flag, not any specific material name.

How to pick a first toy

Start with what kind of stimulation you already know you like from masturbation or partnered sex, rather than guessing at something entirely new. A few starting points:

• If you like external/clitoral stimulation: a simple vibrator with 2-3 intensity levels, no bells and whistles.
• If you're curious about internal stimulation: a slim, straight design before anything curved or textured — you can always size or shape up once you know what you like.
• If you're buying for partnered use: keep it simple and non-intimidating; our roundup of the best couples toys breaks down which style suits which kind of shared use.

Skip anything with more than one or two features for a first purchase. Multiple motors, app connectivity, and a dozen vibration patterns sound like more value, but they mostly add ways for a first experience to go sideways — a dead app connection, a pattern that's actually unpleasant, a learning curve that gets in the way of just finding out what feels good.

Realistic budget ranges

• Under $20: mostly novelty-grade, often the porous materials above. Not recommended as a first purchase even though it's tempting.
• $25–$60: the sweet spot for a genuinely good first toy — body-safe silicone, a reliable motor, simple controls, from an established brand.
• $60–$120: better motors, sometimes app control, often worth it once you already know your preferences.
• $120+: flagship products, premium materials or brand names, dual stimulation designs. Not necessary for a first toy, but not a scam either — you're paying for engineering, not just markup.

A separate, more recent national survey — Leger's January 2025 Canadian Sex Life Survey, 932 sexually active adults — asked how often people incorporate toys into their sex life specifically (not lifetime or occasional use). The clearest pattern was a steep age drop-off:

Sexually satisfied respondents also reported regular toy use more often than unsatisfied ones (26% vs. 17% — correlation, not proof toys are the cause), and LGBT2Q+ respondents reported regular use noticeably more often than heterosexual respondents (33% vs. 21%). A separate Canadian study (1,435 participants, overwhelmingly women) found 52.3% had ever used a sex toy — a lifetime measure, not directly comparable to Leger's "always/often" figures, and a good illustration of how much the exact question asked changes the headline number.

If you're wondering which type is actually the popular first buy: vibrators lead by a wide margin in the two Canadian surveys that break it down by type, with dildos a distant second and butt plugs/anal beads further behind — worth knowing if you're overwhelmed by the sheer variety on a retailer's site and just want a reasonable starting point. See all our verified Canadian sex-research stats →

Once you've got a sense of what you like, it's worth reading up on care as well — silicone toys in particular react badly to the wrong lubricant, which is covered in our guide to cleaning and storing toys.