Gay sex positions: anal, mutual, and oral, covered directly

The same core positions and pacing considerations covered in our anal sex positions guide apply directly here — this page pulls out the specific named positions worth knowing, plus frotting and mutual oral, which don't always get their own real coverage elsewhere.

Anal-focused positions

All four below work well specifically because the receiving partner has real control over depth and pace, which matters more here than in most other position families.

1. Prone Bone

The receiving partner lies face down, propped on their forearms with legs together and extended, while the other partner lies directly on top from behind. Keeping that weight on the arms rather than settling it onto the body underneath is the main job here — a genuinely comfortable, low-effort starting point that gives the receiving partner easy control over how much pressure they're under. Full entry in the glossary.

2. Doggy style

On hands and knees, with the other partner kneeling or standing behind. Depth and angle adjust easily just by how far the receiving partner lowers their chest or arches their back, which puts real control in their hands without either partner needing to say anything mid-position. Full entry in the glossary.

3. Kneeling Bodyguard

Both partners kneel upright facing the same direction, the other partner close behind with chest pressed to the receiving partner's back, arms wrapped around the front. A close, grounded rear-entry setup — lower and more controlled than standing, with full-body contact the whole way through. Full entry in the glossary.

4. Missionary

Face to face, the receiving partner on their back with the other partner between their legs. Not anal-specific by design, but genuinely underused for it — full eye contact and the ability to read a partner's reaction directly matters as much here as it does anywhere else on the site. Full entry in the glossary.

Frotting and mutual positions

Non-penetrative, genital-to-genital contact controlled by both partners together rather than one person setting the pace.

5. Facing Scissors

Both partners sit upright facing each other, chest to chest and close enough to kiss, legs interlacing with one knee bent up and the foot planted. Works well as a frotting position specifically — genital-to-genital contact without penetration, controlled by both partners together rather than one setting the pace. See our frotting guide for the mechanics and safety considerations that apply here. Full entry in the glossary.

Mutual oral

6. 69

Both partners give oral sex to each other at the same time, in a mirrored, inverted position — most commonly one partner on top facing the other's hips, though it works lying side by side too. Skips a turn-based structure entirely, which some couples prefer; see our oral sex guide for pacing and comfort tips that apply regardless of position. Full entry in the glossary.

One partner lies on top facing the other partner’s hips so both can give oral at the same time.